
Rachel and I on our wedding day
Today, May 10, is Rachel and I’s seventh wedding anniversary. We were married in 2003 in Philadelphia, PA, Rachel’s hometown.
In honor of that occasion, here is the homily that our great friend the Reverend Sean Mullen delivered at our wedding mass at St. Mark’s Church:
When the musical, Oklahoma! opened in 1943 it did not look very promising. Not only was the country at war, the show was a departure from the formula for success on Broadway. It was, as an article about the show put it, “a musical without stars, without gags and humor, without the sex appeal of chorus girls in flimsy attire.”
People in the industry predicted it would flop. When scouts brought back word from the out-of-town preview productions they summed up their assessment of the likelihood of success succinctly: “No girls, no gags, no chance.” So it was a surprise when on opening night the audience rose to its feet for a standing ovation and the production continued to run for five years and nine months.
Oklahoma has been on my mind as Rachel and David’s wedding has approached, because we know that they are Oklahoma-bound. But the musical Oklahoma! has been on my mind as the wedding has approached because when we plan a wedding it is as close as many of us will ever get to staging a musical. And while we might leave out the gags and the humor, every wedding has its stars and there is usually a good compliment of chorus girls - though not in such flimsy attire! And this wedding, perhaps as a homage to Oklahoma!, even has a surrey, but I’m not sure that there is a fringe on top.
One of the best-loved songs from Oklahoma! is a duet sung between the two principle characters: Curly and Laurey, who are still in the early stages of romance and don’t want to admit their mutual attraction. Curly sings to Laurey:
“Don’t take my arm too much,
don’t keep your hand in mine;
your hand feels grand in mine;
people will say we’re in love.
Don’t dance all night with me
till stars fade from above;
they’ll see it’s alright with me;
people will say we’re in love.”
In just a few moments I am going to ask David and Rachel to take one another by the hand in a very deliberate way - holding each other, right hand in right hand, as they pledge their love and their loyalty to one another.
In a wedding we make this fuss over hand-holding precisely because we want people to say they’re in love. And we need these outward and visible signs of the deeply invisible truth that something is going on here - that God is at work weaving David’s and Rachel’s lives together in a most wonderful way.
Remember those wonderful words we just heard from St. Matthew’s Gospel:
“Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow, they neither toil nor spin; yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you…?”
These words remind us of the secret work God does in our lives, if we trust him. They remind us that God does not need stars or gags or chorus girls to work with to make something beautiful. They remind us that every detail of this wedding could fall to pieces but the beauty of God’s love would still carry the day in its invisible way.
I suppose that we could think of Rachel and David’s time together in Washington as the out-of-town preview that all musicals go through: a time to work things out, figure out how to sing and dance and live together, a time to make adjustments, re-write songs, learn new choreography. And if Washington has been the previews, then Oklahoma may be where Rachel and David are going to have a long run in the near future.
But in any case, this is opening night, when we give them a great standing ovation. This is the time to dance all night till the stars fade from above. For we see that it’s alright with you, and people will say you’re in love.
May God bless you richly as he joins you together, Rachel and David, and may we always say you’re in love. Amen.